How strange that the young should always think the world is against them - when in fact that is the only time it is for them. Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960 Physical Punishment is Ineffective and Harmful
Effective discipline does not involve physical punishment of children. Recent studies have shown a direct link between physical punishment and several negative developmental outcomes for children including physical injury, increased aggression, antisocial behavior, difficulty adjusting as an adult and a higher tolerance towards violence. Research has also shown that physical punishment poses a risk to the safety and development of children. It is crucial for parents to gain an awareness of other approaches to discipline because it is all too simple for physical punishment to turn into child abuse and result in severe physical injury, detrimental emotional damage and even death. Each year thousands of children continue to die as a result of physical abuse. Children have a right to be protected from physical abuse, and laws in every state demand severe punishment for those found guilty of physically harming a child.
Most parents do not want to use physical punishment as a form of discipline. A child that lives in an abusive environment is likely to grow up and either be abusive themselves or have severe social, emotional, physical and cognitive delays in development. Parents' disciplinary methods serve as strong models to children that teach them how to deal with life's day-to-day challenges. It is important for parents to model appropriate behavior and to establish expectations as well as limits. Children have a right to live in a safe, secure and nurturing environment, and their dignity must be respected. Parents must consistently use fair and logical consequences whenever children fail to follow rules. They must keep in mind that a child is not a miniature adult, but only a child and that discipline must be age appropriate and fit the child's temperament and maturity.
Adults who recognize they have a problem with physically abusing their children should immediately seek professional help and ensure their children are taken to a safe environment to avoid harming them further.
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They may lash out verbally in these instances and say things they later regret.
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A tantrum can range from whining and crying to screaming, kicking, hitting, and breath holding. Be sure they understand that two hours each weekend of their favorite video game or going to see a movie with mom or dad is only earned by completing the chore list successfully each week. Screaming at a child to be quiet or paddling a child for hitting is hypocritical and ineffective. A respectful child takes care of belongings and responsibilities, and a respectful child gets along with peers.
They may find a creative outlet in theatre, dancing or art, or they may be exceptionally talented in the sciences.
They often feel that lying is the easiest way to deal with the demands of parents, teachers and friends. Pay attention when your child is talking, as sometimes whining is a reaction when a child feels you aren't giving them your full attention. Explain that they will be wearing underwear and not diapers.